weird internet searches that land people here.. and more ramblings
07.24.04 (9:45 pm) [edit]well.... if that isn't a rambling title then i dont know what is. hehe :D
Yahoo! Search for weird little places to go
if the person who searched that just happens to come back i would love to have a comment on what your day has been like or anything really... no... seriously i would like to hear from you.
i have always thought of myself as being weird... funny how some people put bad connotations on that... people always seem to be telling me that im not... i dont see what THEIR problem is. its like an obsession to make everyone the same... well... at least i can laugh about it in the end. i hope they get the their lifes goals.. they should read down further about the MoodGYM.
Google Search for temporary amnesia
ahh... that one brings back memories... hehe... im funny today... OR NOT!!! my memory is better though so im not exactly telling myself to go back to where i was here.
anyway... on with some ramblings as everyone has coined little bits of rubbish that i will come up with from now until the end of my designated blogging time.
i actually found a really interesting site for help with minor depression. i have been slightly depressed on and off for a while. the site did help so make me more aware of what it is that is making me depressed. im not finished though. it is an ongoing process over like 13 weeks or something. i finished the first module in about 30 minutes today so i figure its a good investment in my future.
the site goes through what a person without depression feels when certain things happen in their life and how the rest of us can do little things to avoid the stimulators. for instance... i know a few girls who think that they have to find love and friendship in the world to feel worthy of being loved and to be happy. i may have thought like that in the past but i dont anymore. it is hard to talk to these people about this but because just by their determination to think that way they think comments are bad. lol... i dont know if that came out right but i am onto something now so i wont go back. i dont know about recommending this directly to anyone but hey im sure there are lots of people who would benefit from it. even people who are consistently happy with life and dont suffer from depression could benefit from learning to consciously stay that way for the future.
onto other things... i read the most balanced Adventist and even Christian for that matter approach to SEX in christian relationships!!! yes... adventists and sex... they dont traditionally mix well. lol... it went through it great in my view. i do love how oldies seem to be admitting that us young generation's aren't really the crazed monkeys that we always used to be portrayed as. like we didn't have morals or respect for things.
which brings me to another topic related to marriage and all things SEX. I was thinking how important it is for parents to bring up balanced children. Yess.. thats right... balanced... too many children are almost carbon copies of their parents. that is hardly balanced for a child. i was thinking about this because i went through a few personality types that i thought my five year old sister might be and came up with ENTP as her type because she is interested in the way everything works, she is argumentative, she ahs a strong will, she is outgoing (at least in my view), she also takes everything i say on its merits (ie. she respects what i say if it makes sense to her and loses some respect for me if i say things that dont gel in her mind). These are the major factors that i see coming from the ENTP personality. It is important because her mother and father are beginning to get annoyed at the way she seems to think she knows more than them. They are ISFP and ISFJ which can hardly be expected to know what it is like to argue for the fun of it or to respect people for what they do as opposed to what they are (ie. parents). I dont think that she doesn't respect them for who they are but as i found going through life, it is really hard to respect someone who tries to force their thoughts on you as gospel. Only recently have i been coping with this, i try to tell people that i dont hate them for who they are when i say that i dont agree and i rip their arguments to shreds.
i respect people who know how much they know and even some others who dont realise what they are doing but i will respect anyone who puts out their opinions in such a way that i can agree or disagree without feeling that i have been told something.
too many parents see the 5th commandment as an instruction to children to obey unconditionally everything they say. personally i think this is lunacy. it is taken by many many people to justify cruelty to children following "disobedience". sure a certain amount of discipline is going to show YOUNG children who do not understand rational thoughts that what they did was wrong. but i think that physical discipline should stop for 99% of children if not more by the time they are about 8-9 years old. i know for myself it stopped around then or earlier because i responded to rational arguments and the reasons why something was wrong. i was always someone to question everything. i saw way too much hypocrisy and when i talked about it, it is and was seen as disrespect.
anyway. i am kind of over that so i will go now and do something productive. like sleep... if only those kids next door would get sick of their little party and go home.
posted by: Dottie (reply)
post date: 07.24.04 (10:01 pm)
wow.... you think i lot don't you... you bring up many good points and made my brain work... thanks... two thumbs up for this post!
posted by: ansell (reply)
post date: 07.24.04 (10:15 pm)
Reply to: Dottie
well... id say thats success. . if i can make one person think about what i write then i think that i have succeeded.. thanks for the two thumbs up!!!
posted by: 02Babydoll (reply)
post date: 07.24.04 (10:56 pm)
Ooh, very interesting! :o)
posted by: ScarlettGKPi (reply)
post date: 07.29.04 (5:39 pm)
Balance in a child's life is important I think. John and I have discussed that we want our children to be well rounded and not, as you mentioned, carbon copies of us. The important thing is for parents to understand that they need to love their children even if they do and like different things than they do. My daughter may hate the piano and not want anything to do with music but I must still love and respect her for her decision. Which of course, I will! Ok so I think maybe I went in another direction but hey...how are you anyway hon?!
posted by: ansell (reply)
post date: 07.31.04 (5:40 am)
Reply to: ScarlettGKPi
i am sure you will introduce her to the piano as soon as she can sit on the stool... or even earlier if possible!! good luck... i dont think you went in another direction... that was just extending what i said in my post. i could have gone on and on but the real one i wanted to get down was the discipline issue
parents will never be perfect because there is no course to study everything that can happen. learning from your own childhood experiences may be the only practical instruction you really have.
i have actually had the flu for the last five or so days.. so i haven't been posting much... you will know when i get better as i will start posting regularly
